Guest post by Cathy Dodge-Smith Ed.D.
Licensed Davis Autism Facilitator/Coach
I had one little seven-year-old in my office who was not very interested in what I had in mind for our agenda. For over an hour, he wandered around, chatted incessantly, touched things, and was generally in his own world. Even though he did address me from time to time, or ask me questions occasionally, he was not interested in my responses, often not even waiting for my reply. Finally, he stopped in mid-stream, came to my little table where I was waiting for him, and looked me in the eye and said clearly, “OK. What are we meant to be doing?” I told him what I wanted him to do, and he sat right down and did it. He was totally with me for about five minutes, and then got up and was “gone” again.
As individuation becomes more stable, the fleeting moments of orientation gradually expand, and the amount of time spent “gone” gradually is reduced. This is not something I am doing; it simply happens as the client becomes more comfortable being in an oriented state, and knows how to get there voluntarily.
I was once working with a young woman (26 years old) on the concept of “time”. When I talked about the earth rotating and us being on it,, she looked up with a beautiful expression on her face, and said the she suddenly felt “OK” and more balanced and connected being on this earth. She then told me that she gets goose bumps when she gets oriented, that things look so much clearer, not all fuzzy and shimmery. Her mother told me that, a short time later, she had arranged to meet my client for dinner at a restaurant. “Usually she is at least ½ hour late and is often annoyed when I call her. This time she calls slightly before she’s due and tells me she’ll be there in 10 minutes. And she is!” This represented a huge change for this client, one that may enable her eventually to become employed. She has always lost any job she could find because she could never be on time.
Davis Autism Approach is a natural, drug-free, and respectful way to assist an autistic individual in developing the capacity to participate fully in life. I feel honored to have been able to participate in its development, and to experience the joys its implementation bring to autistic individuals and their families.